Voice Tonality

Voice Tonality PDF

It’s Not What You Say, It’s How You Say It

Remember what I said about women and our need to FEEL you?

Well what kind of feelings do you think would arise in a woman if you talked in a monotone, dreary voice all the time?

Not very good ones, that’s for sure.

Women are intrinsically sensitive and emotional by nature… and whatever feelings you have within a given moment… we automatically pick up on and feel them too!

So if you come up to us nervous, shaky, and stuttering, we’re going to feel nervous, awkward, and we’re want to get away from you as quickly as possible.

This exercise is about becoming more aware of your tone of voice, to instill powerful positive emotions in the women with whom you interact.

Why?

I’ve run into many men that speak in a very monotone way. I’m not sure why they do it, but as a woman, their voice makes it harder for me to FEEL them.

The main trigger that women use to evaluate whether or not we are attracted to a man is our instinct. Women feel you. We feel your character, your value, and who you are as man within seconds of meeting you.

Your voice can reflect passion, confidence, leadership… all the characteristics we look for in a man we want to be with.

So let’s start experimenting with you voice tonality: break away from monotone and start becoming multi-tone. I made up that word, I think.

Here’s what I want you to do:

Like the “silly walk” and the “default face”, this exercise is about experimenting with what works for you. But it’s also about pushing yourself to try new things to see if they fit.

  1. Notice. Start paying attention to how you talk and how others talk. Are you loud? Soft? Monotone? Do they command attention? Do they sound confident?
  2. Ask your friends what they think of your voice tonality
  3. Then start experimenting with your voice:
    • Day 1: Speak very loudly – watch for reactions from others.
    • Day 2: Speak very quietly – watch for reactions from others
    • Day 3: Speak like a person who is drunk or high (not gibberish or slurred words, but over-the-top excitement). The world around you is so interesting and fascinating. Move your voice up and down.
    • Day 4: Play around with your voice levels however you like. Up and down. High and low. Watch for reactions from others.
    • Day 5: Record your voice doing all of the above and listen. Listen for authority. Listen for excitement. Listen to what you think best represents you and the man you want to be.